Have you ever worked hard to achieve something you wanted, but when it came time to step up, you wanted to run away? This is what happened to my client Charmaine.
Charmaine had worked hard to create her website, set up coaching groups, and develop her unique nine-step system for stay-at-home moms to create income around their busy schedules. She was almost ready to launch her exciting program, and then… she lost her nerve. Feelings of self-doubt flooded in. She was on the brink of something big, about to change her life and affect the lives of others for the good, and yet she hit an all-time low in the way she felt about herself.
Instead of plowing on with business strategies, it was time for Charmaine to give herself the gift of some of the most important work that can ever be done – personal transformation. It is through your own personal transformation that the diamond core of your success, happiness, and health resides.
In addition to finding the value in exploring the defining the moments that shaped Charmaine’s response to getting out there and promoting her wonderful work, she trusted in the Three Keys to Self-Trust. These keys appear in my book Hot Confidence, and there is an audio energy tool to accompany this valuable framework.
Here is a summary so you can strengthen your self-trust right away!:
Self-trust has three components: competence, emotions, and choice. To expand each of these components, there are three keys you can apply while developing your ability to become more resilient:
1. See yourself as skillful. Discover your strengths so you have evidence for believing in your natural and learned capabilities. Practice recognizing yourself as able, well-resourced, and skilled. Yes, it is all about what you choose to focus on and say to yourself about what you have to offer.
2. Exercise your ability to reflect and respect your own opinions based on what you are seeing, feeling, and hearing. Nurture informed opinions and enjoy consciously developing flexibility while maintaining your boundaries.
3. Develop what Carl Rogers, the father of humanistic psychology, termed “Unconditional Positive Regard” for yourself. What this means is that you learn to accept yourself without any conditions or judgment attached. You can go about this by first setting an intention and then creating an environment in which that commitment to yourself can flourish!
Here are the actions to attend to in order to develop positive regard for yourself:
- Take care of yourself.
- Practice positive self-talk.
- Relate to your surroundings with appreciation, respect, and optimism.
- Hang out with people who support these concepts.
- Focus on thoughts and endeavors that align with your values and the outcomes you’re working toward.
- Nourish yourself on all levels – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, educationally, and physically.
Creating self-trust is dynamic and evolving! Charmaine is focusing on the Three Keys to Self-Trust and has seen a rapid evolution in her relationships and the opportunities opening up for her.
If this is what you want more of in your life, give yourself the gift of solid self-trust so you can build your inner buffer and share your brilliance more openly.
You can find out more about creating self-trust and building your self-belief and self-esteem at HotConfidence.com