How much of what you do every day you do because it’s is expected? Are you living a life full of should’s, musts and have to’s rather than living a pleasure-filled life?
If your passion is locked down, your vitality power and creativity are being denied their major motivating force. I believe the remedy is two-fold:
(i) the healing and balancing of your relationship with life as it is and out of that grounded place
(ii) igniting creativity and engaging the dynamic flow of masculine and feminine energy.
Each of these parts is an adventure to be had and continued. Their coming together, I imagine to be what Mihaly Cziksentmihalyi called “Flow”. Cziksentmihalyi identified seven qualities in the state of flow.
What are we aiming for to Be in Flow?
- Total involvement in what we are doing – engaged, concentrated and focused.
- A sense of ecstasy – of being outside everyday reality.
- Inner Clarity – knowing what needs to be done and measuring our achievements resourcefully.
- Knowing that the activity is doable – that you have the skills you require for the task at hand.
- A sense of serenity – unconscious competence, present and a feeling of growing behind the boundaries of the ego.
- Timelessness – thoroughly focused on the present and in a zone of the fullness of being
- Intrinsic motivation – whatever produces flow becomes its own reward.
Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi, regards his concept of flow, (for which he is renowned) as the answer to “What makes human beings happy?” Flow is “an almost automatic, effortless, yet highly focused state of consciousness” that you can experience when you devote yourself to a meaningful challenge, particularly one in which you are skilful.
Flow is often experienced by people who are being creative. Such as composers, artists, actors and writers. Athletes, dancers, figure skaters, martial arts experts, monks, nuns and conscious entrepreneurs are amongst others who experience flow.
Czikszentmihalyi’s offers a scientific explanation of what might sound like a mystical experience, in his TED talk. Our nervous system can only process about 110 bits of information per second. Listening to someone speak takes up about 60 bits of neurological bandwidth, which explains why we can’t listen to more than one person at a time. Czikszentmihalyi refers to an example of a composer who is so focused on his music, he is taking up all of his available bandwidth, leaving none to monitor his sense of self.
” …when you are really involved in this completely engaging process of creating something new – as this man does – he doesn’t have enough attention left over to monitor how his body feels or his problems at home. He can’t feel even that he’s hungry or tired, his body disappears, his identity disappears from his consciousness because he doesn’t have enough attention, like none of us do, to really do well something that requires a lot of concentration and at the same time to feel that he exists.”
You can discover more about healing and balancing your relationship with life in “Reclaiming Your Right To Be!” a tele seminar I’m running as part of the Hot Confidence Teleseminar Series. The audio class runs on 1st February.
If you want to find out more about engaging your creativity, igniting your passion and getting to grips with masculine and feminine energy so that you can experience your own magnetic allure, then the Audio Class to run on 8th February titled “Ignite Your Passion, Fire Your Desire and Spark Up your Magnetic Appeal.” This class is part of the Hot Confidence Teleseminar Series. You can find out more at HotConfidence.com/teleseminars.